Donald Miller put it well: http://storylineblog.com/2015/01/26/great-parents-do-this-well. Great parents are open and honest about their mistakes. Including the sexual ones. This next article is on a secular site, and I don’t agree with many things, but it pointed out problems that conservative (often homeschooling) families often run into—and their dangers: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2015/05/what-you-need-to-know-about-the-josh-duggar-police-report.html and the importance of sex education.
So what will Caid and I be doing for open communication, honesty about our failings, and sex education for our kids? Still figuring that out. Come back in 10 years. Just kidding. Because that is too late. Here is what we are starting with:
By the time our child is 3, we want them to know their body parts by name, how/importance of keeping their private parts private, how to say NO, and that we don’t keep secrets, we only keep good surprises (with an ending date). We will probably use the “Yell and Tell” books from No Greater Joy (http://www.yellandtellbooks.com)
By the time our child is 6, we want to read “How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex . . . A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character” and cover the first two books in the series offered here: http://www.christiansexed.com/12-principles-of-sex-education. We want questions and dialog about sex to be natural and flowing.
By the time our child is 10, we want them to know our experiences, decisions, and stories regarding masturbation, pornography, homosexuality, dating, modesty, purity, pregnancy, AIDs and STDs, rape/sexual abuse, abortion, contraception, not having sex before marriage, and having sex after marriage. We want to cover book three of the series we started above, and have worked through this Bible study as a family: http://www.intoxicatedonlife.com/the-talk.
What are some resources/information that you have found helpful?