Monday, July 8, 2013

30 Things Prince Charming will Be/Do

(Written when I was 19)
  1. Saved and totally surrendered to the Lord
  2. Ask for my advice
  3. Stimulate my brain, be a “deep thinker”
  4. Think I am nearly perfect and want to make me totally perfect
  5. Live a life of purity, living up to the highest
  6. Not be lazy—a hard worker
  7. Feel free to talk to me about anything and I him
  8. Always have time for me
  9. Know what they want in life and stick to it
  10. Be a spiritual leader
  11. Be a gentleman
  12. Love his mom and sisters and have great relationships with them
  13. Have godly men that keep him accountable and do “guy stuff” with
  14. Want lots of kids everywhere all the time
  15. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and always wanting to share his insights
  16. Not be a complainer
  17. Be more in love with God and want to be with Him more than with me
  18. Be involved with a ministry that reaches out and serves people
  19. Keeps me accountable for my walk with God
  20. Have nothing in their past that holds back the present or the future
  21. Be generous with their money, but also wise, giving it all to God first
  22. Talk to my father about me
  23. Give me time and space to make my own decisions
  24. Agree with my mom in politics
  25. Be honest and open even when it requires sacrifice
  26. Be a man of prayer
  27. Not a pushover when it comes to discipline
  28. We both “fit in” to the other’s families
  29. We agree on doctrine and entertainment
  30. I need to be attracted to him
Guess who got everything on her list and more??:) 



30 Ways to Find God's will/Calling/Purpose for Your Life

  1. Quit making lists. Just go out there and live life with God outside the box
  2. You often find God’s will for your life through elimination: go do something, and you might find it is NOT your calling, but at least you are a step closer
  3. Understand what a calling/purpose is. Study it and ask others how they found theirs
  4. Whatever your calling, the ultimate goal is to bring glory to God. So if it doesn’t do that, it isn’t for you
  5. It involves your deepest, truest desires—figure out what those are
  6. It will bring you fulfillment and peace, but not an easy life: know that it will cost you everything
  7. It fills some kind of need/void in the world that only you can fill: what are the needs/problems out there that make you the maddest, saddest, happiest when you can help?
  8. It evolves and takes shape, becoming clearer in steps—you must take a step before you see the next one, so do what you know you need to do now, even if you don’t know the next step yet
  9. Just because you are called one place or to a specific people for a time doesn’t mean it won’t change: but your life calling/purpose will always have the same basic motivation
  10. Ask these questions: Who am I? What do I do (or want to do) with my life? For whom? What need/problem does that solve? What is the result of that?
  11. Romans 12:1-2. Study, learn, do it
  12. The goal of your life purpose/calling is to become like Christ (1 Thess. 4:3, Romans 8:29), so start working on that now
  13. Your life purpose/calling is the specific area/people group that God has called you to minister to. It is about others, not you, so get out there and start serving
  14. Ask yourself these questions: Have I died to myself and am living to God? Am I doing everything I know I am to be doing now? Am I looking to pray for others and meet their needs? Am I bringing God glory in my life?
  15. Desire to know God’s will more than anything else. Learn how to pray and fast
  16. Decide to do whatever God shows you, no matter the cost
  17. Search your heart to see if there is any sin/thing you are holding back from God
  18. Remember that God wants you to hear Him even more than you want to hear Him
  19. Know that God answers “yes, no, and wait” but always says “Trust me”
  20. Learn how to listen/hear God speak
  21. God speaks through your conscience, circumstances, authorities, and time
  22. Be saturated with the Word of God since that is His main way of speaking to us
  23. Why did God create you? To serve? To help? To assist? To influence? To impact? To encourage? To give? To train? To comfort? Find some good verbs that describe your desire to make a difference
  24. Who do you feel called to work with/serve (whatever verbs above you chose)? Families? Fathers? Mothers? Children? Teens? Babies? Parents? Adults? Singles? Couples? Elderly? Specific country or people group? Poor people? Rich people? Middle class? Foreigners? Sick people? Handicapped people? Homeless? Runaways? Unsaved people? Lukewarm Christians? Urban? Rural? Anything else you can think of
  25. Doing what with those people (that you chose above)? Sports? Music? Art? Entertainment? Designing? Photography? Writing? Teaching? Tutoring? Counseling? Preaching? Technology skills? Law? Business? Medicine? Cosmetology?
  26. What do you want to see as the result of your life being lived?
  27. What is your definition of success?
  28. This template may show you something: “My life purpose/calling is to (fill in with verbs from #23) to (fill in with people groups from #24) through (fill in with #25 answers) for the reason of (fill in with answers from #26 and 27).” But templates aren’t miracle workers.
  29. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

30 Discipleship Lessons

  1. Has Christ as the center of their life
  2. Assurance of Salvation
  3. Made God Lord of their life (dedication)
  4. How to pray
  5. Separated from past life:
  6. Friends (from a Biblical standpoint)
  7. Entertainment (music, movies, internet…)
  8. Opposite sex/purity and proper relationships
  9. Clothes
  10. Words/attitude
  11. Being baptized and church: what and why
  12. Finding your worth/identity in Christ
  13. Give God your future
  14. Know God’s purpose for your life
  15. Give God your money (tithe and offering)
  16. Give God your time (church, service)
  17. Have your own devotions/time with God
  18. Know how to study the Bible
  19. Memorize and meditate on Scripture
  20. Fasting and seeking God, how to listen
  21. Obedience to God—yielding rights
  22. Obedience to parents—Biblical family values
  23. Obedience to authority in government/school
  24. Have a clear conscience/victory over sin
  25. Know how to stand alone rather than give in
  26. Know your spiritual gifts
  27. Know your testimony and share with others
  28. Know how to share the gospel/lead someone to Christ
  29. Know how to disciple someone else
  30. Know how to lead a Bible study/have a ministry

30 Steps to a Dream (based on "The Dream Giver" by Bruce Wilkinson)

  1. You start off as an ordinary, normal person living a familiar life
  2. Then begins the holy discontent: a nagging feeling something is missing
  3. You have a big dream to meet a big need in the big world
  4. You tell someone and they doubt you, so you keep it to yourself
  5. It builds up and you will burst if you don’t share it—you realize you were born for this
  6. You decide to do whatever it takes to go after your dream
  7. You tell everyone about your dream
  8. You make sacrifices and changes for this dream, leaving your comfort zone
  9. To do what you love most, you have to do what you fear most
  10. You hit a wall of fear
  11. In God’s strength, you pass the fears and enter into freedom
  12. You run into obstacles: people who want to protect you, people who don’t believe in you, people who don’t want you to rock the boat, people who want to stop/destroy you
  13. You meet kindred spirits: people who dream with you and help you understand truth and kill doubt
  14. You enter a time when you cannot see your dream and things go on and on and you can’t see God. You feel alone
  15. You become angry with God—where are His promises?
  16. God gives you faith to go one step at a time without seeing/feeling more
  17. You begin to see how God was working all along and you feel Him close
  18. You walk in the light and God reveals impurities and washes you clean: you feel one with God
  19. God asks you to give back your dream to Him: your dream or God
  20. You struggle and walk away from the dream knowing God is enough
  21. God gives you back the dream in a new and real way
  22. You face more problems and obstacles before you are ready for your dream
  23. God gives the Holy Spirit and His Word (truth) as your weapons as you begin the spiritual battles
  24. You have fellowship with other Christians who are fighting alongside you
  25. You learn to fight or others and take on their giants in Christ
  26. You feel a certain need and begin to try to help—it hits your heart and you can’t ignore it
  27. You realize THIS was the big dream you had all along
  28. You work hard and are fulfilled doing what you love to do the most
  29. You are joined by other dreamers and teach others how to dream
  30. You are called away by God to begin the whole process again…leaving everything familiar and digging deeper, finding a new facet to this amazing dream/life God has given you

30 Lies/Fears I've Believed

  1. All you need is love
  2. “I am sorry” will fix it
  3. If it is God’s will, it will go smoothly
  4. My would will be perfect if (insert something) just happened
  5. Ignore it and it will go away
  6. Don’t be vulnerable, they will take advantage
  7. Changing my mind is betraying all I once stood for
  8. I have to be thin and pretty to be liked
  9. If you love someone they will love you back
  10. Always speak your mind
  11. Being closer to someone just means getting hurt more
  12. My mistakes messed up God’s plan for my life
  13. I am not pretty because no one notices me
  14. I am not enough as just me
  15. I will be forgotten because I am not worth remembering
  16. One day I will find out everyone was only faking it
  17. I am weak and when something scary/big happens I will be found to be a coward/failure
  18. I am not worth anything unless I am working hard to serve others or look pretty
  19. One day, God is going to get tired of forgiving me and give up on me
  20. If you really knew me, you wouldn’t like me anymore
  21. My gut instinct is always wrong
  22. I am just a hypocrite fooling myself
  23. I am going to disappoint everyone l love the most
  24. My dreams are silly and my standards are too high, I need a reality check
  25. No one will ever really understand me
  26. I can’t trust my heart and am just making up this whole ‘relationship with God’ stuff
  27. I am inadequate for the job I am being asked to do
  28. As long as I am a good girl people will like me—just try harder
  29. Be quiet, because if you are loud you will just mess up
  30. I am not pretty enough to be popular, and if people do like me, I must constantly live up to their expectations or they won’t like me anymore
  31. If I were only prettier/nicer/funnier/better/normal…I would have everything I wanted                     (For me, this was a healing exercise—to identify each of these lies, and then write out the truths beside them) 

Sunday, July 7, 2013

30 Things I Learned about Self-Esteem


  1. Self-esteem, as often termed, is often a bunch of bogus. Make sure to know what you are talking about
  2. That said, finding your self-worth, through Christ, is crucial and must be faced and dealt with
  3. Culture, and the church, has told women (especially) that their value is through what they do (service), or how they look, not who they are
  4. In my life, this led to constant guilt/shame if I felt I was not giving/serving enough, because that meant that I wasn’t enough as a person. I thought it was selfish/wrong to look good/invest in myself
  5. I am something special because God created me, and made me for something unique. I am made in God’s image, and He loves me. He loves me like THAT
  6. There is nothing I can do to make God love me more than He already does
  7. It isn’t wrong/selfish to take care of yourself, to invest in yourself, and to look good. It is important and should be valued
  8. I need to be the best me God can make me because I have only one life to live, and there are people/children that need to see Jesus in me
  9. I take care of me so that I can be there to fully give myself
  10. When I say I am not worth it, I am calling God and those who love me a liar
  11. When I say I am ugly, I am telling God He messed up
  12. When I say I can’t do something, I am saying God isn’t big enough
  13. When I am “downing” on myself, I am taking the focus off of God and onto myself. That is true selfishness
  14. There will always be people prettier/better than I am, and also people uglier/worse than I am. Comparison never helped
  15. It is important to know myself. Take the time to do it/self-reflect (some questions to ask myself are: How is my heart? What do I need to take care of my heart? What are my talents (natural ability) and skills (learned ability)? What has made me what I am? What are my strengths and weaknesses? What makes me feel fulfilled? What is my definition of success? Am I doing it?)
  16. Knowing/saying that I deserve better in a situation isn’t pride, it is knowing limits and boundaries
  17. Proper self-worth requires being honest with yourself—about your weaknesses AND strengths
  18. It is important to surround yourself with people who are honest and encouraging
  19. Trying new things, even if you fail, grows your comfort zone and your self-worth
  20. Negative talk about/to yourself is just as bad as if you do it about/to others. Don’t
  21. When you understand your value, you are free to see the value of others
  22. In the end, you are the only you. You are the one who will wake up every morning to deal with the decisions you make. So take responsibility and be you
  23. Other people always have something to say. Listen, pray, and then let go. They do not know everything, and they don’t know what it is to be you
  24. Take responsibility for your life because life is going to happen with or without you
  25. There is always another way. Refuse to be stuck in the box
  26. Learn basic self-confident skills: speaking in pubic, standing strong, using silence. Acting confident leads to being confident
  27. Don’t keep apologizing. Make the changes you need to change and let go of the things you can’t control
  28. Laugh at yourself. You and life are funny
  29. Accept complements. The person saw something and commented—say thank you
  30. Proper self-worth is having hope and being positive about your dreams/plans for the future. And dreaming big
  31. Beauty is important. I need it in my life and I need to know I am beautiful as I am. And be reminded of it often 

Esther by Ann Voskamp

I read www.aholyexperience.com and Ann Voskamp, a spiritual mentor to me through her books, went to Africa to meet Katie Davis www.kissesfromkatie.blogspot.com another person I call a hero. I copied some of what Ann wrote about it. Please share it. It is powerful.
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I am Esther in the palace. (But now) I am sitting at a Compassion project in Africa, sitting with all the Mordecais in sackcloth outside the palace gate. We’re the ones inside the palace gate. All I can hear pounding in my head is Mordecai’s message to Esther:
“Don’t think for a moment that because you’re in the palace you will escape when all your people suffer. If you keep quiet at a time like this, deliverance and relief will arise from some other place, but you and yours will die.” There are a thousand ways for your soul to die, to be the living dead.
You can look into eyes and hear the whisper from those outside the gate: “You’ve got to use the life you’ve been given to give others life. If your life isn’t about giving relief — you don’t get real life. What does it profit a man to gain the whole world, but lose his own soul?” You have got to use your position inside the gate for those outside the gate – or you’re in the position of losing everything. There are a thousand ways to be the living dead.
If you have any food in your fridge, any clothes in your closet, any small roof, rented or owned, over your head, you are richer than 75% of the rest of the world. If you have anything saved in the bank, any bills in your wallet, any spare change in a jar, you are one of the top 8% wealthiest people in the world. We are the Esther’s living inside the gate.
You are where you are for such a time as this – not to gain anything — but to risk everything. You are where you are for such a time as this — not to make an impression — but to make a difference.
You could have been the one outside of the gate. You could have been the one with the Lord’s Resistance Army slitting your child’s throat in the middle of the night, you could been the one born into a slum, raped without a hope, you could be the one born into AIDS, into starvation, into lives of wild Christ-less desperation. The reason you are inside the gate for such a time as this – is to risk your life for those outside the gate. If I perish, I perish.
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Dear North American Church, After a Sunday morning in Africa, you don’t look the same to me. You look hungry. Hungrier than anything I’ve seen in Africa.
That one woman with no shoes and no husband and 7 kids, walk up to the front of the church and put this bag of beans into the basket as her love offering to God – my heart ached this raw conviction and I could feel it with you, North American Church, what you really wanted: You’re hungry to love like this. You are hungry for the uncomfortable.
You are hungry to sacrifice your Starbucks coffees, your NetFlix subscription, your dinners out for something More. You’re hungry for more than vanilla services, and sweetened programs, and watered down lives.
You’re famished for More, for hard and holy things, for some real meat for your starved soul, some real dirt under your fingernails, some real sacrifice in your veins – some real Jesus in your blood and in your hands and in your feet.
And I’m looking into the eyes of all these African children, all these hungry, dancing eyes and the Compassion teacher’s literally dancing under the tree: “You all get to give!”  It’s not just the rich who get to give – it’s all those who give who get to be rich. You don’t wait until you have more before you give to God – you give now so you get to become more in God. It’s only the people who give sacrificially who get to live richly.
It is hard for me to sing with them– when I’m living like this – and my brothers and sisters are living like that. When too many North Americans diet for a hobby, and too many Africans die for a meal.  When our churches have building budgets and our sisters have dying children. We aren’t playing games here. If God is real, if the King of Kings and Lord of Lords is really on the throne, if we are all going to see our Jesus King face to face, soon and very soon – then there’s a whole lot of us who are wild to change things soon.  Now. For such a time as Now. 
I am standing in Africa and there’s a whole Esther Generation and it is us who want hard and holy things because we want more than hollow lives. There’s a whole Esther Generation and it is us who want our children to know the More Life, a life more than self-focus and cell phones, more than iphones, itunes, ipads and iLove, who want them to know the More Life of loving the least, the lonely and the lost and tasting the joy of God.
I am standing in Africa and there’s a whole Esther Generation and it is us who are done with easy, who say to the North American Church: Be concerned for the poor – but be no less concerned for us rich who claim not to be rich so we can excuse ourselves from giving.
Be concerned for the poor – but no less concerned for us who have done just enough to assuage our consciences, just enough to pat ourselves on the back, but not enough that we’ve ever felt sacrifice.  Be concerned for the poor – but be no less concerned for us who aren’t — because someday we will face Christ.
I am standing in Africa and you can hear the whole North American Church, rising up, crying out: What if caring for the poor was more than just caring about easing our consciences? What if caring for the poor meant feeling sacrifice for the poor?  What if we weren’t really feeling care for the poor – until we were really feeling sacrifice for them?
North American Church, it is time: We are all done with no-risk, no-sacrifice, no-point lives. It is time: We are all done with the drug of comfortable and dare to live the dream of uncomfortable. It is time: We’re all hungry for uncomfortable because we’re hungry for God – and He is outside of our comfort zones. This. Is. What. Faith. Is.
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If we’ve really welcomed Christ into our lives – it means our lives are evidence that we’ve welcomed the strangers and the neglected and the outcasts. The Esther Generation lives it and the North American church is hungry for something as authentic and organic as hospitality: Don’t start with a program. Start with a plate.
The radical practice of hospitality begins with each child, each knock, each phone call: Every interruption of the day is a manifestation of Christ. There are no interruptions in a day. There are only manifestations of Christ. One of Katie’s daughters had whispered it:
“Mommy, if Jesus comes to live inside my heart, will I explode?”

And Katie had said —“No!” and then —“Yes, if Jesus comes to live in your heart, you will explode… That is exactly what we should do if Jesus comes to live inside our hearts. We will explode with love, with compassion, with hurt for those who are hurting, and with joy for those who rejoice. We will explode with a desire to be more, to be better, to be close to the One who made us.”